How fraught are your choices?

harmony balance peace, freedom of choice, power of thinking without thinkingOne of the humanistic movement basic premises proposes that we have the right and responsibility to give meaning and shape to our lives.  This viewpoint brings with it the notions of freedom, autonomy and choice.   However, how much freedom of choice do you really have in creating an intentional life-story?

Just how free are you when making choices and decisions about what and how you live your life?

The often nerve-racking experience of what decisions and choices to make about your life begins early in childhood.  You are taught to ‘stop and think’ before making any choice/decision.  This well intentioned lesson was probably heightened, on occasion, by the threat of annihilation through such idioms as ‘look before you leapt’.  Let’s face it with that little ditty playing in the background of your psyche can you really be judged harshly for believing that if you misjudge your leap (choice) you could end up flat as a pancake at the bottom of some sharp cliff.  Not a pretty sight!

However, rationally and logically thinking things through can cut you off from knowing what you truly want in and for your life.

Author Malcolm Gladwell, in his book Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking, says having a strategy of collecting as much information as possible before you make a choice isn’t always for the best.  ‘Snap’ decisions, he says, are most accurate because sometimes you just know the best course of action. However, you may be so reliant on the rational model of deduction that you circumvent this knowing by putting your faith and trust in rational deliberation.

How often do you rely on your head rather than your gut?  How often do you wish you would have listened to your instinct?

In the next blog we will talk about how having too much choice can be injurious to your psyche and brain.


Gladwell, M., (2005), Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking, Penguin, London, UK

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