The Upside of Downside thinking: how your negative thoughts can assist you in creating the life you do want

Young sad melancholic woman sit on big stub, downside thinkingIn the last blog we looked at the Downside of Upside thinking: the negative impact of positive self-statements.

In that blog the work of Dr. Bruce Lipton was referenced with respect to the fact that if you hold a subconscious negative view about yourself it will have no trouble in overriding any conscious attempt you make, through positive self-statements, to talk yourself into changing that view.

Negative thoughts are a part of the human condition.  It would be wonderful if we were blessed with only having self-affirming thoughts and emotions, however, at this juncture in our evolution humanity doesn`t have the wherewithal to live free of self-doubt and negative glimpses of ourselves, others or the world at large.

Living your life in a Stepford-like world where fear-based negativity is relegated to the outskirts of your psychological view does little to induce any perennial sense of happiness you may be attempting to create.  In fact, as we saw in the last blog, it does the exact opposite.

Spending lots and lots of time focusing on your negative thoughts will only cause them to become a larger part of your life.  What you focus on and allow to capture your attention is what you’ll get more of.

So what is the benefit of those negative thoughts that naturally flow in and out of your consciousness?

The benefit comes when you neither attempt to shut them out nor allow yourself to dwell on them.

Recognizing and accepting when you’ve negative thoughts, in the moment you have them, lessens any power they would have if you attempted to banish them instantly and replace them with mantra-like positive self-statements.

Becoming aware of your negative thoughts by allowing them float into your consciousness is the first step.  Once you expose them in the light of your conscious mind you can begin to explore and find any nuggets of learning that are buried within their darkened recesses.

By honestly and intentionally looking at the root of these negative and limiting thoughts you allow yourself to move past them.  And in the process the view you hold about yourself and the world becomes more expansive, deeper and richer.

Having negative thoughts is not the challenge.

It’s the holding onto habitual and often firmly ingrained ways of viewing yourself and the world, underlying those thoughts, that’s the issue. For example, say you have negative thoughts about your capability to go for the career you want rather than the job you have.  Recognizing, accepting and exploring where these negative impressions come from is the first step.  It is only when you’re able to understand how your negative thoughts have limited your possibilities in going for the career you really want that you can begin to move forward.   It is only then that you can choose to create a self-belief about your capabilities, which allows you to develop an action plan and focus on going after the career of your dreams.

Recognizing, accepting, exploring and letting go of negative thoughts that impede the expression of all that you can be isn’t easy but it is life enhancing.

By choosing to recognize, accept, explore and move beyond any negative, self-limiting thoughts and beliefs, instead of constantly attempting to camouflage them with mantra-like self statements, you free up energy to create the things you do want for your life.

And don’t forget one very important thing.  While working with any limiting and negative thoughts, you have about yourself, remember to also focus on the things you do brilliantly well.

In the next blog we will begin to explore how your conscious and subconscious mind can cooperate and work in harmony to create the life you want.

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